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Homeless being highlitghted in the newspaper

By on July 22, 2010

I know, ive been talking alot about homeless. Despite the terrible nausea, i decided to sit down and write an entry. Quite sometime back i received and email from someone who didnt quite agree about the food distribution. i wanted to reply to her by email personally but somehow my kids with their super fast fingers smash the keyboard and zass, they deleted it. didnt manage to retrieved her email.

im in no position to really respond to the comment coz i dont go out every week. but the few numbers of night i went out was enough to teach me a lesson, not just me but also my lil kids. they no longer play with their food whenever we remind them about the homeless. they take care of their things better now after realising how fortunate they are. That was what a 3 year old boy saw with his own eyes.

Recently, the newspaper highlighted about the homeless, not just the adults but also the homeless kids, they are as young as 10 years old, left roaming in the city of kl to defend themselves. along the way they ended up becoming drug mules for the adults as they needed money.

Thos who didnt get hold of the newspaper, here are a number of link written in the newspaper, i took it from the Star online:

Sadly, when we talk on homeless, ppl have the mind set of those beggars, drug addicts sleeping at the roadside. yes these scenario exists but as what the newspaper also mentioned:

“These homeless in the capital city are not all beggars or vagabonds. In fact, many of them hold jobs during the day.

However, they do not make enough to pay for houses or rooms and find it easier to make ends meet by sleeping on the streets.

There are no accurate figures on the number of homeless people in the city as only a few non-governmental organisations (NGOs) are aware of their existence.

Many do not even look shabby and a few even have cell phones and dress well.”

“DRESSED in a polo T-shirt, long pants and leather shoes, Amran’s appearance can be deceiving. His fluent English also makes it hard to believe that somebody like him can be homeless and living on the streets for the last 30 years.”

In the New Straits Time recently highlighted on homeless kids 

Several hundred teenagers are living in abandoned buildings in Kuala Lumpur. They roam the streets, robbing and prostituting themselves to survive. One couple even made a sex tape for sale. Shockingly, the parents of some of these kids know what they are doing.

THEY are unwanted, neglected and shunned by their parents and society.

These teenagers, aged between 14 and 18 and numbering several hundred, live on the streets, exposing themselves to the underground activities thriving in the hidden parts of this city.”

I cant remember was it NST or Star that i read few days back ( n cant seem to cari it online) those homeless kids are rather bright, one of them left home age 12 after obtaining UPSR 3 A’s 2 B’s while another gal left after PMR who obtained 5a’s 3 b’s. The form 3 gal left coz father was abusive.

I had my very own up close n personal experience with homeless children. I was on an assignment for my undergrad, i managed to contact a lady from an NGO to bring me to the homeless kids. Accompanied with 2 other uni mate, we met the lady at the bridge near The Mall at 11:45pm. As i approached the lady, who was already with few kids, the lady salam me and whispered “y are u wearing tudung? you gonna scare these kids?!!!” and i was speechless, i did inform her i was from uia, couldnt she foresee we will come with tudung? anyway, i came out with a story quickly for the kids. The 3 of us were problematic children, being sent to a special programe by Social Welfare and we were suppose to be at Kem Ibadah but we ran away from the mosque, hence the attire.

The lady ajak the kids and i to lepak at the mamak, the ice breaking session went pretty well. I asked them how do they survive in the city since its been a year we’ve been off the street. So they told us their story. The youngest was 9 years old. Among the stories, dad remarried and stepmom refused to have him around, sexual abuse/ physical abuse parents, poverty, parents pass away and no relative willing to take them in since relatives pun kais pagi makan pagi.

The were dressed nicely, i asked them where do they get their shower? They go to the public toilets but if they have extra funds they will take up those RM50 hotel room to shower and have a good rest. Money? they steal handphone mostly. What was their tactic? they said usually kt mamak, ppl will placed their handphone on the table and busy reading the newspaper, especialy those who read and put up the newspaper, it will block them from seeing their handphone on the table, that’s when they take it. THey would then sell the handphone at various shops. They said, these shops knows we steal it so we dont really get a good ammount for it. But watever amount we get, we will share it. Any “income” of the day will be shared with everyone, for food mainly. If there’s extra money, they’ll buy new baju at chow kit.

If they dont “earn” anything what do they eat? They will walk at the chow kit area, grab one or two fruits quitely frm the vendor. Most stalls vendor will are busy with customers, they dont notice these kids grabbing one or two fruits (i.e apple, mango, oranges) Or they will go to back alley of restaurant to ask for extra food.

Where do they sleep? Under the bridge at The Mall.

While we were busy talking, the lady left us. Of coz we were panic. How could the lady sukehati tinggalkn kitorang. We were running out of topic, good thing one of my friend (my cousin actually) was like a moving jukebox, we talk about music and the kids started singing to all the song we mentioned. My cousin pun ikut layan nyanyi, segala lagu lah, dari rock zaman 90-an pun diorang layan.  It was almost 2am already. We spend another 30mins or so and i came out with the story that we really have to get back to the mosque for the Kem Ibadah before the facilitator/ustazah wakes up for the qiamulail programme. We told them qiamulail starts at 3am so we  have to rush and sneak in the mosque again. Pheww, lucky thing we went back in one piece. We sempat walk with them along the kaki lima kedai2 kat KL, diorang sempat lagi tunjuk men and prositute going to the hotel rooms and all.

Few days later, i went to Jabatan Kebajikan for further research, wah diorang trus deny my story, blum dgr lagi waht i have to say. I just mentioned the word homeless children, and the lady was denying it. She said those sume illegal imigrant, from mynmar, and bangsa2 lain. tu sume sindiket. she said, we do our rounds up quite often and never see locals.She just refused to listen to my story. She said i should come again another day, she will put aside all papers and articles for me. But as day passed by, i kept calling her she refused to answer my call. mcm2 alasan her colleague kasi.

And after the NST highlighted on these children, among the respond gov gave was

“We need to check on this. We need to find out who these children are, whether they are locals or if they are children of those who are not from here,” he said.

Read more: Saving the street kids: Government, NGOs seek total solution to problem http://www.nst.com.my/nst/articles/Gettingkidsoffthestreets_Govt_NGOsseektotalsolutiontoproblem/Article/#ixzz0uNNZyexM

It is sad to see such kids going through all this. A 17 years old couple even record their sexual activity and sell it to earn money.

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Sound asleep

By on July 16, 2010

I just hv to share this,athirah found a new spot to sleep.we were driving my parents car n there wasnt car seat in tat car.she was enjoying the freedom of moving about depan belakang,had to hold her frm going infront sbb kacau syauqi driving.
and suddenly she started panjat belakang lak,since that kept her still,i let her be, she was enjoying the music coz speaker was close to her,few mins later,there was silent,no rambling from her,i turn back n saw her nicely asleep. die ingat caravan ke kot ade ngam2 bunk for her,haha

she slept through out the journey frm damansara to sjmc

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Of World Cup, Shaaban and Ramadhan

By on July 15, 2010

i’ve been wanting to make an entry bout my kids bday but unfortunately my head spins each tim ei wanna go tru all the photos. gonna take some time till i have the strength to do so, insyaAllah.

Meanwhile i wanna share with you an email my brother gave me. He just got back from South Africa yesterday to watch the World Cup. No, this is not about the Paul the octopus ;).  Hope you can take a min or two to read through it. May Allah give His blessing and guidance to all of us, insyaAllah


Assalamualaikum,

How’s everyone? I pray Allah’s guidance is upon all of us and He
blesses us with all that is good.

What did you guys think of the World Cup? I’m sure it left as quickly
as it arrived. Conveniently I was supporting Spain:D

As some of you know, alhamdulilah I managed to experience the world
cup fever in South Africa and it was definitely an experience to
remember. It’s obvious that there’s many aspects of it that, as
muslims, we don’t agree on. Be it the wastage of money, alcohol
consumption, heedlessness or the amount of time it distracts us from
our responsibilities.

But back to our daily lives, I believe as muslims we are obliged to
take lessons and learn from it. To use the teachings of Islam to study
history with wisdom. Then use history as a yardstick to measure our
progress, rather then be stuck in the glory or failing of the past.

Many lessons can be extracted from the world cup. South Africa held a
hugely succesful world cup. Much was said before the event started.
South Africa had a reputation of a country rife with racial tension
and discrimination. A third world country naysayers were saying doomed
to fail under the limelight. But as the final curtain comes to a
close, everyone can see it was an event to be remembered, one of the
best runned world cup ever perhaps. And we can only see that it only
comes with detailed planning and investments. They invested billions
into infrastructure and many man hours. From the state to the
volunteers to the residence, everyone put in their share of work.
Logistical planning was a nightmare especially since S Africa is only
a third world country. It needed to practically built brand new
stadiums, transport infrastructure, and plan for each detail of
hosting world cup. As you can attest now they pulled it off and the
fireworks display at the end of the final proved to be a fitting end.

As we approach Shaaban and Ramadhan, it’s important for us to
reevaluate our planning for it. Do we want to have a successful
Ramadhan? Do we have a plan in place? It starts with Shaaban, the holy
month where we start to prepare ourselves physically and spiritually
for hardship of Ramadhan.

We saw Spain lifting the cup the first time in history. I’d say it was
a deserving victory for them as they played some of the most
entertaining and consistent football. I’m certain it came with
preparation. They ply their trade at one of the best leagues in the
world, harnessing their skill through good competition and company.

Just like it, it shows the importance of the crowd we mix around with.
Our prophet S.A.W warned us to always keep with good company as we are
upon the religion of our friends. So we need to check ourselves and
see if our friends are bringing us closer to Allah or otherwise.

Spain also had a good coach who displayed his tactical acumen and
courage. He got his tactics and selections correct, even leaving out
the hugely popular but under performing Torres for the semifinals and
the finals.

We saw how the french team went into complete disarray under their
coach. The vastly talented team disintegrated into chaos through
rebellion of their captain. Immediately we saw the effect on the
pitch. They left in disgrace, the wrath of their whole nation behind
them. Showing the importance of the management and coaching team.

For us, we need to see who our teachers are, who are guiding us,
whether it’s in accordance to Quran or the Sunnah. Whether we have the
right teacher to teach, befriend and guide us on the correct path.
Whether we have a healthy relationship with the Quran or not. It also
teaches us the importance of communication as the french team brought
the whole world into their internal feud. The spanish team was mainly
from Barcelona(without Messi) so we could see the special togetherness
within them that brought them their success. Unity of the ummah is of
utmost important as we all know. It’s one of the most integral part of
our ummah.

And we know at the end of the day, regardless how well you are
playing, it is Allah who decides as He wish. Teams like Germany played
well, Argentina was the overwhelming favourites but it is Allah who
will permit the winner.

Regardless of our talent or experience, we must always pair our effort
with constant dua and remembrance of Allah. It comes in hand in hand.
On our part it is our effort and resolve, we leave the matter of
success to Allah. As we are rewarded for our effort, inshaAllah with
the correct intention, our success will be in the Afterlife,
regardless of what happens in this transient world. It is Allah swt
who decides who He honours.

So as the team progressed and the world cup comes to an end, we see
it’s all about organisation, about planning, about resolve, about
collaboration between groups and people. I saw inherent in everyone,
the quality that we can work together, we can live together regardless
of our background if we share a common goal. We are talking about
South Africa who only 20 years ago had the apartheid system in place
and they could put their differences aside to host and enjoy the world
cup together. A country with many ethnicity and 11 official
languanges.

I saw the spirit of the humanity in beautiful colours. The fan walk in
Cape Town, the route of around 2.5km from the train station to the
stadium had a reported volume of 300,000. It was an amazing
electrifying atmosphere. People from all spectrum of lives came
together to enjoy the environment. I saw tablighis, maulanas, hijabis,
non hijabis, non muslims(not scantilly clad because it was winter!)
and fans from all over the world. Everyone was just enjoying their
time, getting along with each other and soaking up the atmosphere. I
know of families who just came out for the walk and then return home
for the match. It was such an uplifting experience that puts aside
whatever differences that we have with each other.

For the opening match, since it was on a Friday, the muslim society
organised a jumuah solah on an empty field near the stadium. The
attendance was so overwhelming it overflowed out of the field. Men and
women came in their bafana bafana colours, some with flag coloured
hijabs and the field was overflowing with people. It was especially
memorable since women overthere don’t usually go to the masajid for
friday prayers due to the lack of space.

There were concern that South Africa was unsafe but mashaAllah there
were polices everywhere. Every one of them were happy to help you out
and guide you to the places you want to go. They were like tourist
guide in police uniforms.Together in enjoining good and forbidding
evil, even the most notorious of places can be a secure place.

So Shaaban is our opportunity to start planning for Ramadhan. We need
to create the buzz for Ramadhan so that when it comes, we are ready to
receive it’s bountiful blessings. We need to start talking about the
virtues or Shaaban and Ramadhan to each other. Remind each other of
the Sunnahs. Do voluntary fasting together with friends, encourage
people to do good. If they have trouble waking up for subuh, call and
remind without being judgmental. Go to mosque together and remember
it’s a colloborative effort of all muslims. Bring out the Vuvuzelas,
the jabulanis, the flags, the banners of Ramadhan. I don’t mean it
literally but you know, our Quran, attires, banners, Cds or whatever
it is that we can to create that buzz. Let us feel the atmosphere of
Shaaban and Ramadhan so that at the end or Ramadhan we are among the
succesfull ones. The ones lifting the trophy and enjoying the fruit of
success.

As I left South Africa, everyone was saying how they feel sad that the
world cup is coming to an end. Let’s make sure that we feel the same
towards the end of Ramadhan.

Just in the space of a month, the world’s view on africa seems to have
changed. From a country known languishing in myriad of issues like
poverty, HIV infection, languid infratructures and high crime rates to
a country beeming with hope and potential. Let’s make our Ramadhan our
month of change and paradigm shift.

Make Shaaban and Ramadhan a process to attain taqwa, which will lead
to charactor refinement. With superior character don’t you think we
can live together in a better world? InshaAllah by being better
people, we’ll be equipped to serve, provide and engage to form a
better society. We ask Allah to give us taqwa so that we will be
better people Ameen.

Shaaban is our training ground for Ramadhan. Remember that the
accursed Shaytan is tied in Ramadhan. It only means that he will be in
overdrive in Shaaban, calling us away from our ibadah, so that in
Ramadhan we are already in autopilot to neglect Allah and our duties.
Shaytan will create emnity in any way. Shaytan will use females, TV,
celebrities, games or whatever ways he can to deceive us. We ask Allah
swt to protect us all from it.

So in Shaaban there’s many practical things that we can do.

Start our voluntary fastings on Mondays or Thursday, or the 13th,14th
and 15th of the lunar month.

Start eating less and drinking more.

Sleep slightly earlier so that we can wake up slightly earlier to
acclamitise for sahur.

Remind and motive each other. Talk about the virtues and merits of
Shaaban and Ramadhan.

Attend pre Ramadhan courses to cover the fiqh of fasting. Review the
fiqh of prayers to enhance and perfect our prayers.

Set a new goal for Shaaban and Ramadhan and share it with others so
they can help you achieve it. Create a vision that we want to achieve
in inspire us to be patient.

Increase our zikr and shukr to Allah for all his blessings. Be
grateful for Allah swt who’s given so much yet ask in return so little
from us.

Start voluntary prayers before sleeping to acclamatise for teraweh.

Exercise to be in better physical condition. We can do more ibadah if
we are in a better shape.

Check within ourselves on our discipline and organisation of our daily lives.

Reduce watching TV, using our computers for unnecessary endeavours and
hanging out.

Let’s make this Ramadhan one to remember. We can emulate the same
fervour, the same excitement that we put to the world cup to our
special month. Put the same passion that we had in cheering for our
teams, for staying up late into the night to watch the games, into
talking about our favourite players and their profiles, into team
tactics and their blunders. With all the buzz going around, we get
those who usually don’t watch football suddenly become temporary fans.
Let’s start talking about our prophet pbuh, his companions and stories
that would uplift our spirits. Let’s make our intention and start
planning and lay down the infrastructure now to reap the benefits of
Ramadhan. Start early because change is not meant to be forced or
rushed but nurtured. Like they say in Khosa languange, it’s Ayoba
time!

Lastly we make dua that Allah allows us to meet Ramadhan this year,
give us the guidance to fully benefit Ramadhan. May He accept all our
ibadah and let us meet Syawal with increase taqwa and all our sins
forgiven.

Obviously I’m addressing myself first before all of my friends that I
care about. All that is good is from Allah and whatever error from
myself and the accursed syaitan.

Humbly,

Khairul

Wallahu’alam

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Pregnancy nausea

By on July 7, 2010

it’s been awhile since i update my blog. as i mentioned previously, blame it on the hormone. am not too sure y this time around, my nausea get worse whenever i face the laptop. so usually i cek my emails, update my tweets n fb via my phone. im abit too lazy to type a blog entry using the hp though.

It has been very challenging for this pregnancy, im constantly hungry but cant seem to eat anything. it’s really annoying. And i think the person that is most irritated with me is my husband, my constant complain of hunger but each time he asked me what i would like to have, he’ll get “i dont know” as an answer. Glad i find a solution to swallow those vitamins. I have to take it with warm tea. Yes i can even vomit by just drinking plain water. annoying aight, even by drinking water causes me to vomit. So far alhamdulillah i managed to swallow my vitamins with warm tea. And glad that USANA have this 20mins absorbtion thingy, so i’ll have to do is to ensure i dont vomit the first 20mins after taking the vitamins. within 20mins, the vitamins n minerals have been absorb into my body.  *those interested in usana, i’m still taking orders, i do check my email frequently via my hp.

I havent been in good shape to layan my kids too. even my camera battery went flat few weeks back and i have yet recharge it. havnt been taking photos of them lately. glad that hArith n athirAh can shower by themselves now. so all i have to do, is to let the bathroom door wide open to monitor them. when they are done, or shall i say once they had enough of waterplay, they’ll come out to me.

not too sure how am i gonna handle four kids next year. sounds a lil crazy isnt it, having 4 kids all under the age of 4. mcm org dulu2 lah pulak, eveyr year dpt anak. my due date will be early february. of coz will be hoping for a gal, so we have 2 pairs =), insyaAllah

yay, my sister will be back from her europe holiday tomorrow nite. im craving for Marks & Spencer scones and also her friend’s homemade cookies. so by tomorrow my “part-time” maid will be home, yay.

i usually hv my bro around during the days that his not working, so he usually help to keep kids occupied. but now his away in south africa for the world cup. so there goes my extra hands.

i really hope this nausea will end once i enter my 2nd trimester. hmm tetiba terasa nak makan buah rambutan lah pulak.

anyway, i was looking tru syauqi’s facebook and came across this few photos. can’t believe it that we survived those days. hArith and athirAh were only 13 months when uZAir came along. but due to their prematurity, their corrected age back then were only 9 months, they were only crawling then. here’s photo of how lil the elder 2 were

see, they were still crawling back then

seriously, after looking back at those photos, i couldnt believe myself we survived those period. we actually had 3 lil babies to handle and so far no major incident happen. amazing, masyaAllah. no wonder lah everytime pegi mall we get all kind of looks. ppl must be saying, wat the hell am i thinking having 2 babies and soon after another one. oh yes i can still remember the looks i got when i went out alone with all 3.

when i got to know im pregnant, i really cant imagine am i gonna handle 4. but after looking back at these photos, i told myself, since we were able to handle those days quite well, insyaAllah it will be the same next year. by then elder two dah besar skit. just praying hard uZAir can accept the new family member coz as for now i’m totally his.

i had a fren, came over the other day. her son is about the same age as my elder 2. i was like gosh, what am i thinking, her son is about the same age as my elder 2 but soon i have another 3 to handle while my fren (or shall i say most of my fren) are still comfortable at 1…hmmm…im sure Allah will help to bring out the SuperMom in me 😉 insyaAllah

alrite, till then…. cya around 😀

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TRIPLETS and MORE …

By on June 25, 2010

Hi all, sorry for the long hiatus. blame it on the hormones. Thanks for all the well wishes. Well it may come to a shock to some of you upon hearing im pregnant, to be honest even syauQi  and i were extremely shock. It took me 30mins to digest the urine pregnancy test thingy. I stared at it for a complete 30 mins before leaving the bathroom and break the news to syauQi. We thought we stop at three, but looks like accident do happen i guess (as what the doctor put it)

I was so happy when i managed to wean off all three ( from bottle and wean uZAir from breastfeed), i get to sleep longer hours at night since they weaned off. no more hassle of basuh n sterlize botol susu, no longer need to bring hot water and such to bancuh susu when we go out as the kids now drink packet dutch lady milk. no more basket full of bottles, bottle liquid soap and such whenever travel jauh balik kampung… 

And what i was looking forward most was travelling. as the elder two is already 3 and uzair turning 2 we no longer need to follow the “one infant to one adult” policy. so it was already possible to travel the two of us with the 3 kids.

But looks like now everything is back to square one 😉 Takpe, rezeki anak kan, alhamdulillah 😀 lets hope we will be getting another gal to complete the set, 2 gals n 2 boys, insyaAllah

I remembered i had difficulty to conceive before, after 1 1/2 year we were blessed with the triplets. then after 4 months i gave birth to the triplets, Allah blessed us with uZAir. and now another rezeki. Alhamdulillah. I have PCOS but alhamdulillah although still with my irregular period, yet i still conceived. My last period was in February actually.

This time around, the pregnancy wasnt as easy as uZAir’s. it is almost as difficult as the 1st pregnancy. (no it is just single pregancy this time) i cant even look at rice. Havent been eating proper lately. Yes that was the issue of gastric that i had been complaining about. Pregnancy —> no appetite in food (hardly eat anything) —> gastric . Innitially i did suspect i was pregnant, did the test (not early i the morning though) and it showed negative. Then as days passed by, gastric became worst i knew i had to start eating proper meal, but each time i look at the rice i just dont feel like eating it. After a week or so, syauQi mentioned to me about doing the test. I didnt tell him though that i already do it earlier on. So this time around i did it early morning bile bgn for subuh. The line wasnt that clear, which ended up me staring at it for 30mins not sure positive or not. I suspect bcoz it is still early to sbb line not so clear.

Came out frm the bathroom to wake syauQi up for subuh:

“you, subuh”

“ZzzZzzZz”

“you!”

“zzZZzz”

“subuh!”

(case tido lmbat tgk bola)

“uuuu, subuh!!!!”

“ZzzZzzzz”

“uuuu, i pregnant” (dgn suara yg perlahan)

immediately woke up, sat down “haa, ape? betul keee?!!”

he thought i was joking to get him up from bed, he asked for bahan bukti, and there goes both of us ternganga.

been wanting to update an entry on my kids bday party. but i dunno why, each time i wanna go tru the photos trus mata berpinau jadi pening.

meanwhile, there are few bloggers have made and entry on it, you can click on their link =)

http://phatmummy.blogspot.com/2010/06/tripletsplusone-birthday-party.html

http://iswatie.blogspot.com/2010/06/happy-birthday-tripletsplusone.html

http://pinkertonic.blogspot.com/2010/06/triple-celebration.html

if there’s anyone else that made an entry on the birthday, do inform me plz. the hormones is stopping me from blog hopping lately 🙁

to everyone, again thanks for the well wishes. sorry i did not respond to it individually, again blame it on the hormones. each time tgk computer sure nk temuntah… 🙁

hmm, looks like we r not stopping at 3…

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